Parents Talk: Is it Better to Wait a Year for Kindergarten?

Patch Parents Council debates another hot topic. Please feel free to weigh in in our comments section below.

This week's topic is kindergarten and whether to hold back or send a child to kindergarten even if he or she might be younger than the majority of the class.

With all the summer and fall-born babies out there, what do you think is the best thing for parents to do? Does it hurt children or set them up to fail if they are sent to kindergarten too soon? What was your experience and what do you think other parents should keep in mind?

If your kids aren't quite ready for kindergarten, how are you preparing them for preschool and what are your thoughts about sending them to kindergarten early if they are younger than the rest of their peers?

Patch's new feature, "Parents Talk," is meant to help build a community of support for families in Fairfield County through active discussion of important issues.

Each week, we'll introduce a new topic and hope you'll participate in the conversation, which will be moderated and furthered by select parent council representatives in your town.

Please use the comment box below for questions, or to share your experiences and the lessons you have learned. Please also submit questions or topics for future discussions to Associate Regional Editor Liz Mitchell at liz@patch.com and Regional Editor Michael Dinan at michaeld@patch.com.

And if you'd like to join our parent council, let us know.

Fairfielder March 12, 2011 at 11:36 PM
Right. The average age and maturity level becomes higher, but the July/August/September kids go from the middle to the lower end of the scale.
ken danyo March 13, 2011 at 03:46 AM
karl, the apple doesnt fall from the tree. YOur daughter should have realized that you can send your child to kindergarten, and then if they are not ready to proceed, you have them repeat a grade.
G Hoffman March 13, 2011 at 04:29 AM
In kindergarten, children learn and practice how to function in a social environment with their peers. They also learn that they are not the only kid in the world. A child benefits when they can learn to make choices without their parent holding their hand. Instead of this "waste" of resources, what do you propose that a child do before school? Unless the child is home schooled, the child will be way behind in first grade nowadays because of the amount of first grade curriculum that has been pushed down. Kindergarten gives a child the necessary foundation for future success in learning.
Karl Pfister March 13, 2011 at 04:46 AM
Ken, there is something fundamentally wrong with your attitude. Why do you thrive on being horrible for no good reason? You feel it's okay to call me stupid. Tom Valentino is right in avoiding any dialogue wiht you as it is so unpleasant. My daughter knew repeating a grade is an option, but neither she nor I thought that it's a good one. It's better to get it right the first time. Being held back has a stigma, and people think the child that has to repeat a grade is not smart. I doubt any kid likes having to repeat a grade and see their classmates move on without them. Even though elementary school was a long time ago, I still remember which kids were held back. I hope your evening improves so you can spare the world the effects of the dark cloud over your head.
Michael Dinan March 13, 2011 at 11:27 AM
Thank you for your comments, this thread is now closed. Please return for "Parents Talk" at 12 p.m. on Friday, March 18. For nearly all of this thread, this was a productive conversation and we sincerely appreciate your time.


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